People don’t usually share their heartaches to someone they just met a couple of weekends ago and have not interacted with on weekdays. But this does not seem to deter one of my classmates in graduate school. He seemed visibly upset last Saturday and he told me later that he and his boyfriend broke up.
I barely know the person, so I was not really interested. He asked me how he is supposed to deal with the situation. I told him that he has no choice but to move on. Of course, he told me that it is easier said than done. I wanted to tell him about my unrequited affection for Eddie, but I changed my mind. Again, that classmate is someone I have met for the first time two weekends ago.
Just like I usually do, I did my best to be a good listener. He asked me if I have any romantic attachments. I’m always truthful about this matter; I said I have none. Luckily, he did not bother to ask why this was the case. He is aware that romantic situations are quite complicated if one is a member of the LGBT community.
His situation made me wonder about my own. This classmate already had his first break up, while I still have to experience being hitched. I wonder if I am really missing out on many things at the age of 28. I know the lack of experience does not make me less of a person, but there are times when my self-esteem gets affected.
Perhaps my classmate is just comfortable about talking about it. Telling other people about his situation could also be his strategy to get over his boyfriend. I, on the other hand, chose to keep my feelings for Eddie to myself and chose to let only one friend know about them. To each his own.